I was recently reading the comment section on a post about how Scott Adams of Dilbert fame wrote hateful things because I’d heard elsewhere on the internet that he’d made more of an ass of himself in the comment sections and I am a sucker for controversy. Come on, it’s the internet – we all are. Anyways, while I was reading the huge comments section, I happened across this one. Now, I agree with the author of this comment that gendered curse words, and especially the prevalence of curse words that disparage women and women’s anatomy are a problem(and one that it’s very easy in our culture to contribute to unthinkingly), but her comeback kind of bothers me.
Obviously, this isn’t the first time I’ve seen this personification of vaginas. I mean come on, this sort of description was used in The Vagina Monologues. I really dislike this. It’s one thing to work towards normalising the idea that hey, women have vaginas, but that doesn’t make them any different or license anyone to sexualise them because we are all people(and work on getting rid of the use of it as a swear). It’s another to personify it. “My ‘pussy’ is strong and assertive…,” “My vagina’s furious and it needs to talk.”* What do these even mean? Talk about defining yourself through your genitals.
So let’s get one thing straight. I have a vagina. My vagina does not have an Ariana. My vagina does not have a brain, and it does not have emotions. To say it does plays into centuries of people saying that women were not as good because being a woman(i.e. having a vagina and breasts and all of the rest) impairs rational thought and makes us hysterical. And seriously, no one looks rational when they try to personify their genitals, and I have seen both men and women do it. Yeah it’s an interesting comeback, but you’re not going win anyone over with it, or make them feel guilty. They, and people like me who agree with the general sentiment, are going to look at it, say “what the fuck,” and, if you’re really lucky, write a blog post about it.
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*Ensler, Eve, and Dramatists Play. The vagina monologues. Dramatist, 2000. Print.
Unfortunately, I don’t have a physical copy of the play on me, and I retrieved the quote from a website that didn’t mention page numbers, so I couldn’t cite them. It’s from the “My Angry Vagina” monologue.